There are safety nets but they are under major attack right now. I donate to one such program, and while in HS my daughter volunteered, where single women raising children live in a home (called Well of Mercy) where they work to care for one another and the home, have child care and attend college. They stay there until they are ready t…
There are safety nets but they are under major attack right now. I donate to one such program, and while in HS my daughter volunteered, where single women raising children live in a home (called Well of Mercy) where they work to care for one another and the home, have child care and attend college. They stay there until they are ready to move into their own places. They have rules to follow (no drugs, alcohol, men at the home, etc). It's a wonderful program and if I didn't live in another state I would likely be volunteering myself.
You're right about the complications of adoption. I know many who have adopted and some even within the same family have more challenges than others.....but none have said they would rather not be born. Complications tend to be around a sense of abandonment, so more work in providing psychological supports early on is most helpful. Friends (who dated from 8th grade until college graduation -- then getting married, attempted to adopt twin boys at the age of 5. So many anger issues....one almost set the home on fire. Sadly, they couldn't continue with the adoption.
On the other hand I had a coworker who had three abortions---basically used it as contraception. She kept her fourth pregnancy and he was born with Down's syndrome. I don't know for a fact because we lost touch more than two decades ago, but I'm thinking he brought her tremendous joy and like with all children, plenty of challenges.
There are safety nets but they are under major attack right now. I donate to one such program, and while in HS my daughter volunteered, where single women raising children live in a home (called Well of Mercy) where they work to care for one another and the home, have child care and attend college. They stay there until they are ready to move into their own places. They have rules to follow (no drugs, alcohol, men at the home, etc). It's a wonderful program and if I didn't live in another state I would likely be volunteering myself.
You're right about the complications of adoption. I know many who have adopted and some even within the same family have more challenges than others.....but none have said they would rather not be born. Complications tend to be around a sense of abandonment, so more work in providing psychological supports early on is most helpful. Friends (who dated from 8th grade until college graduation -- then getting married, attempted to adopt twin boys at the age of 5. So many anger issues....one almost set the home on fire. Sadly, they couldn't continue with the adoption.
On the other hand I had a coworker who had three abortions---basically used it as contraception. She kept her fourth pregnancy and he was born with Down's syndrome. I don't know for a fact because we lost touch more than two decades ago, but I'm thinking he brought her tremendous joy and like with all children, plenty of challenges.